Choices

We make them every day, every minute: Choices. Some of them are easy, most of them are hard. Because every choice you make has an impact on the rest of your life. No matter how small the choice is, you cannot take it back. Once you’ve made the decision, you’re kind of stuck with it. You cannot travel back in time. Sometimes you can alter your choices a little bit but most of the time you have to sort of live with it.

Hard

You’d think that by the time you’re getting older, you’re used to making choices. And make the right ones. Not true. I’ve had a lot of experience in making the wrong choices. All I can say is that I’ve learned over time that there actually aren’t many bad choices. I’ve also learned to listen to my heart rather than my brain when I have to make a rather difficult decision. I’ll tell you, when in doubt, always listen to your gut, your heart.

Travel

For me the decision to travel when I was young wasn’t a very hard one to make. I wanted to travel the world. I got ‘stuck’ in Aspen, Colorado. Now, there are far worse places in the world to get stuck in. But seriously, I even had doubts when I lived in this Paradise. Yes, I met very best friends for life and for which I’m forever grateful. I wouldn’t have wanted to miss meeting these wonderful people for the world! Still, there was a nagging doubt sometimes in the back of my mind if it was right for me to stay or would I be better off moving on.

Environment

I was in a series of bad relationships. I wanted to find my soulmate. So, what if I had to try Australia? Or any other country in the world. Would it have had a different outcome? I’ve thought about it many times and came to the conclusion: No. It wouldn’t have made any difference. See, I do believe and trust in learning lessons in this lifetime that are meant for me. So, no matter where you are, you will still get the same lessons to learn. I would’ve met people somewhere else, that would’ve taught me the very same things.

Grateful

Again, I’m eternally grateful I’ve met the friends I did. And yes, they are my soulmates. You don’t necessarily need romance in your life to find soulmates, people who are ‘right’ for you. And sometimes I still wonder if of course my life would’ve been completely different had I made other choices. Or would it have? Some things are just ‘meant to be’, whether you believe in them or not.

Passion

It is with this in mind that I made the choice to start my own business. I wanted to write. It’s been my dream pretty much my whole life. But I never had the guts, nor the money. In short, I never wanted to make this choice out of fear. Enough. Now I’m the luckiest and happiest person on earth doing what I love. And yes, it gets hard to get by at times. I’ve had help from my government in getting groceries. I make some money from writing, but it’s not nearly enough to live of.

Money

This, too, is a choice. The less money I have, the less I care for it. Who needs all this ‘stuff’ anyway. As soon as we buy something new we are looking for the next thing. We are never satisfied with all we have. We need more, more, more.  Not any more. I have more than I will ever need. I take my time to be happy. Nature is free. To be relaxed with no stress, and doing what I most love in the world is all I need.

Question

Now I have a question for you: What choices have you made? Did you regret any of them? Or are you very happy with the choices you’ve made? Let me know, please! We can publish some (or all) and learn from each other..

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